A Journey of A Thousand Miles Begins With a Single StepLao TzuThis saying has been my mantra, my guiding force, my compass for the last five years now. I like it because I genuinely feel like I have no idea what I am doing at most or all times.
I just kind of decide I want to do something and then go and give it a good old fashion college try.
Not at all in a well thought out and researched kind of way. It’s more like I just got the faintest idea, that idea then snowballed in a matter of seconds to a crazy end goal and I haven’t the slightest clue on how to get from A-Z.
Unfortunately for Megan, she has to listen to them all as soon as the voices in my head give them to me. Which is a regular affair. I am almost always extremely excited about these ideas and already 110% committed to them. So my verbal diarrhea is at my full volume and gets increasingly louder.
Hey, I get passionate.
Almost as soon as I am done getting all worked up on this thing I want to do. Whether it’s a goal I have for our future, place I want to go to, I instantly feel overwhelmed by how far away I am from achieving it. So just as quickly as I went from 0-110, I get bummed out.
Luckily for me, I have the most patient and supportive girlfriend.
But this is where the quote becomes extraordinarily powerful for me, and I want to share it with you. To me the saying is a reminder that you don’t have to know every step along the way to get to your final goal, destination, or purpose for that matter. The important part is to just take that first step and begin the journey.[/text_output]
If your dreams don’t scare you they aren’t big enough!Ellen Johnson Sirleaf
If it doesn’t scare the shit out of you than your goals, dreams, ambitions just aren’t big enough.
Sorry, this is how I feel.
The great thing is, the things that currently scare you, eventually won’t and you will set your aim a bit higher for that even scarier thing and soon enough that won’t scare you anymore either. Hopefully, you can have a pattern like that until you one day have either accomplished all of your goals or you die.
You see I have some serious goals (serious to me at least) that scare the absolute shit out of me.
For the last five years I have wanted to be a digital nomad in the truest sense of the word. But I have no idea how to go about that. I want to be a successful travel blogger, but am completely embarrassed and scared of my friends and people I meet thinking I am a complete idiot if I tell them I want to be one of those travel bloggers. I want to get commissioned to do hyper-lapse photography all over the world but barely know how to use a camera and am afraid all of the photographers I look up think I’m a f***ing moron. Let alone have no idea how to even get started to get that as a job. I dream of having a home base in my hometown of Huntington Beach, California. But have no idea where to get the money for a down payment on a house and to be able to travel for months at time. I still don’t really. But one day I met people in Vietnam who were English teachers abroad and funding their travels through that. So I thought oh well that’s a step in the right direction maybe I’ll do that. It would be a fun way to save money and see other countries.
The seed was planted.
For two entire years I did not take the first step towards my dream of being a digital nomad besides look at others who were doing it and being super jealous. I also felt like a complete loser when I’d look on Facebook and see many of my high-school friends establishing rather successful careers. I would compare myself to them, and the successful digital nomads and many times asked myself wtf am I doing. I don’t recommend doing that, it sucks.
I eventually grew the courage to take that first precious step and get the paper work started to be an English teacher in South Korea. I knew almost nothing about S. Korea except it had the second highest pay with the least amount of experience. With my minor in Spanish I definitely didn’t know any Korean. And I had no idea what it was like to be a teacher, let alone an ESL teacher. But at least I took that first step and I hope that if there is something in your life like that that you are afraid of beginning I hope this can be a little nudge of encouragement for you.
I can easily say that year in Korea was the scariest year of my life. I had the goal of saving $30,000 in a year in Korea and somehow it worked out. There is no way I would have ever known I could do all that unless I took that leap of faith and just started.
I truly believe starting something new or entering the unknown is the most difficult part of any journey and the number one thing holding us back from achieving our goals.
The journey you take is not a direct path. It goes up, down, backwards, across, happy, sad, scared, yellow, red and makes crazy loops. It is not black and white and there is no right or wrong. It is your journey and it is your life.
We have changed our plans so many times we can’t keep track. We most recently were going to live for a year in Hanoi, Vietnam but didn’t really like the situation that much and then got a random offer to come back to S. Korea, where we will begin teaching again starting next week. But this time we have much loftier goals than just save another $30,000. We have more fears to try and conquer without any idea of how to achieve them.
We come to Korea with the goal of figuring out how to make this the year we become digital nomads and make our dreams come true. We have no idea how we are going to make any of it happen. We are scared we will fall flat on our faces, that our friends and family will all laugh at us and say we were idiots. That we will ultimately have to come home with our tails between our legs in defeat and settle behind some desk working for someone else for the rest of our lives and that our travel days are over.
It is this fear that motivates us. Use this fear to take your first step on your journey.
We are stark raving mad for support, so if you liked this post or know someone who could use a gentle nudge in the right direction would you share it with your friends either via Facebook or Twitter? It would mean the world to us.